Text Box: We had three weddings in June in three different locations: The Peggy Notebaert Nature Museum in Chicago (the 40-year old groom used to be a teenager in my Northbrook church) Trinity’s sanctuary (a couple I recently met) Trinity’s garden (a long-time Trinity family) I found myself wondering: “What can I say during the wedding that might be even slightly interesting and helpful?” Most wedding sermons, I must confess, are filled with clichés. Like commencement speeches, they are usually to be endured rather than enjoyed. I decided to search for something to say that I am passionate about. My goal: (1) avoid platitudes; (2) give people an idea or two that might stay with them when the wedding is over. I thought about a book, now a classic, by Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages, and decided that every marriage could benefit from Chapman’s “big idea.” Marriages lose their luster, he says, because the language we use to communicate our love is not always the language our spouse understands. “But I brought you flowers,” he says. She is thinking: “Flowers are fine, but what I really want is quality time with you.” “But I tell you every day that I love you,” she says. He is thinking: “Words are fine, Text Box: but I wish she would help me with the chores around the house.” “But we went on a nice vacation together,” he says. She is thinking: “Why doesn't he rub my back when we’re together or simply put his love for me into words.” If you have read the book—it only takes a couple of hours—you will discover how to begin new vitality to your marriage (or your dating relationship or your parenting or your long-term friendships.) The secret is: learn what love language your spouse (or significant other or child or friend) speaks. There are five possibilities: Words of affirmation Quality time Gifts Acts of service Physical touch When you communicate your love and respect in their language, ordinary relationships can become extraordinary again. Like to know more? Email me at kirk@trinitywilmette.org and I’ll be glad to pass along some helpful resources. Have a wonderful summer. Kirk Reed Senior Pastor Text Box: Text Box: Page 7